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My ex-wife gained control of the marital home by making up stories - totally made up - and telling the police how she felt "unsafe" ... leading to my being handcuffed in front of our three crying children and arrested on a totally bogus "domestic violence" charge. That gave her control of the house - and all the files in my home-office - for about two years, while I had to pay the bills for everything from swimming pool repair to cable TV.
Fast forward; my record is expunged, I spent nearly half a million on sleazy but "well respected" lawyers from "prominent" and "respectable" firms, to give over 100% of the "joint" marital assets to my ex, and be saddled with a $62 K/ year alimony commitment on top of paying her $23 K/year for the kids (including the 20 year old who lives with me full time) - for whom I also paid all expenses. I pay $10 K/year for life insurance so that if I die, she gets even richer. Total: $100 K/ year. Prognosis: Life Sentence. I'll never be able to afford to retire, and so long as I work, the Judges in Their Infinite Wisdom will declare "no change in circumstances" and force me to pay, and pay, and pay.
And my ex? She retired at 51 after not working through the 14 years of marriage; she lives comfortably in a $400,000 townhouse with no contemplation of work. Why is this unfair? When we married, her income rose by 600%, then she stopped within a year or so when our first child was born. No help in my career from her! I even had to hire someone to come to help with my home-office; she was "too busy" - hiring and firing maids to clean the house.
My crime was marrying poorly, and being unfortunate enough to be in NJ at the time of the divorce; the sentence is not appropriate for the "crime." I should not be a one man workforce to provide a huge welfare check to a lazy malicious lying person deciding to "retire" early.
